OK....let me catch up here. Is there some reason you cannot use a single SQL Server instance since you have a VPN setup between the two locations? This would be the best solution so that you would not run into merge situations later on if you have the need for them to co-exist in the same database.Restoring the database to the other server will work...as you learned....but your data will then start drift apart and if you have the need to merge them later...well...it ain't that easy if you know what I am saying
Next, I guess I am confused as to why you need the StrataFrame database at a location which will not even have SF installed and you are developing from your location. I am sure that you have your reasons, but I am just not following you just yet.