Hrm... in this scenario, you'll actually want to handle the processing on your own... otherwise, yes, your buttons are going to behave exactly like the buttons on the MaintenanceFormToolStrip. So:
1) Handle the EditingStateChanged event to handle the Edit, New, Delete, Save and Undo buttons.
2) If the Pods business object IsDirty, then enable the Save and Undo, otherwise disable them.
3) If the EditingState of the Pods business object is Idle, then enable New, Edit, and Delete, otherwise, disable them.
That's pretty much what we do, except we test on all of the business objects on the form, not just one.