As for configuring a 1-to-1 relationship... you would do this the exact same way as you would with a standard child... configure the relationship and then specify the instance of the parent that is the parent business object of the child.
Is there any data in the child BO? WHen you say "skips the field" what do you mean? When you create a new parent record you still have to call the Add() method on the child or populate it with data before any fields can be updated with the child BOs data. Does that make sense?
Or you can use the IncludeInForm... settings on the form and the business object. Read the help topic in the StrataFrame Help: Business Layer -> Configuring a Business Object -> Form Include Settings
This is a side note, but would it be possible for you to make it out here for the December training class? I think it would dramatically speed your decision making and development process up.