I need the ability to mark the record for deletion, plus change when the delete button is enabled. I have no problem enabling/disabling the button based on the editing state but I can't seem to find a way to mark the record for deletion and use the save to commit the changes. Is there a way to do this without creating a new button and handling the delete separately? 

Thanks,

Tim

At present the MaintenanceFormToolstrip does not have that ability.  You could always hide the Delete button and then create your own in this scenario.  But this is probably a good one for the enhancement list.