At present the MaintenanceFormToolstrip does not have that ability.  You could always hide the Delete button and then create your own in this scenario.  But this is probably a good one for the enhancement list.

Tim

from the help file:

''' 
''' This sample shows how to mark the current row as deleted
''' in a business object.
''' 
''' 
Private Sub DeleteCurrentRowSample()
    '-- Mark the current row as deleted    
    Customers.DeleteCurrentRow(True)    
    '-- At this point the record has only been marked as deleted.
    '   The CurrentRow will be moved to the next record that is not
    '   deleted unless the ShowDeletedRecords property is turned
    '   on within the business object.  Now save the changes to the 
    '   server.
    Customers.Save()
End Sub

The important part is: 'DeleteCurrentRow(true)'

HTH,

Ralph

I need the ability to mark the record for deletion, plus change when the delete button is enabled. I have no problem enabling/disabling the button based on the editing state but I can't seem to find a way to mark the record for deletion and use the save to commit the changes. Is there a way to do this without creating a new button and handling the delete separately? 

Thanks,

Tim